the best of best friends can come from difficult beginnings.

Posted: December 22, 2011 at 11:42 am

about 13 years ago a stray cat was found in safeway’s parking lot, at the time, we thought he was between 4-6 yrs old….i fostered him for a rescue group and then when i opened katies place, he became a foster for them. we found him a great home but he came back a few years later for biting. when i started saints, he moved with me to here…one of the original saints.

frodo always hated my guts until he one day became a saint (to me.) we became the very best of friends and a few years ago, i finally adopted him. there is not really a nice way to say it except to say that frodo could be a complete asshole. he has bitten people in the face and shredded their arms and their hands. these incidents became fewer and fewer as each of us learned frodo’s rule…he was the king and we were his servants.

i was lucky enough to one day be dubbed as frodo’s best friend…i totally adored him and spoiled him rotten as best as i could. this was hard because frodo hated other animals and i of course live with over a hundred of those. so i renovated the office for him and then bought him his very own fifth wheel trailer. i finally got it right when i gave him the shop and the hideaway suite for his own. i periodically would have melt-down freak outs whenever he disappeared on an adventure, because frodo did like to explore the world….preferably from someone’s car.

yesterday we had a couple of carol and frodo moments, when i would hold him and he would rest his nose against mine. later he wanted to nap in my car so i let him for an hour. at bedtime he wanted to eat both up in the suite and down in the shop so gave him canned food in both areas and then when janice, dionne and i were goofing with edith, he decided he wanted to go outside.

it was too late so i took him upsairs and put on alice in wonderland for him to watch. frodo was just the kind of charissmic cat that you went out of your way to do everything for…except he was not going out after dark!

this morrning i found him dead on the chaise lounge,…he hadn’t been sick, he hadn’t been different..he just wasn’t there anymore.

and i can’t believe he left me like that without any warning…or did he and i just didn’t see?

this loss is as great as my loss of tyra…he too was my partner in saints.
yesterday, i had 2 cats, dixie and frodo, and today i don’t have any in my odd little family. i have asked the clinic to send them off for cremation together so i can scatter their ashes here. saints was the final and forever home for both of my guys.

rest in peace frodo, you were the best king i ever served.


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  • Penny says

    So terribly sorry, Carol – he was a lovely cat. It seems worse when they leave you so suddenly, because you don’t have a chance to say goodbye. But it sounds like his last day was wonderful, and he knew you loved him.

  • Mauro Salles says

    A devastating event… So sorry… πŸ™

  • Alison says

    OMG Carol!! I’m sooo sorry to hear this. I know how much you loved the king. I will miss him sneaking into my car every Sunday. RIP Buddy, you will very missed!

  • Find comfort in knowing he died quickly, in his own bed, in his sleep, of old age, having been deeply loved and respected. We should all be so lucky.

  • Maggie says

    So, so sorry. In the few weeks I have been doing laundry on Saturday morning I grew to love this little guy who would patiently wait at the door to go outside and jump up on the dryer for a cuddle
    This is a huge loss for you Carol.

  • Curt says

    Sorry to hear that, I had to chase him out of my car a few times, especially the first time I went to Saints and he hopped in my truck and made his way to the back (as if I wouldn’t find him there)

  • Angela says

    So very, very sorry, Carol, for the loss of both Dixie and Frodo. We met Frodo when we stopped by SAINTS last year… he was beautiful and sweet and a great greeter / ambassador. RIP.

  • suzanne says

    I am so very sorry for your loss of Frodo, Carol.
    I November of 2002 I came home from work one day and found my most beloved cat ever dead on the floor of the garage. No signs, no symptoms, no last hug good bye. I still weep for him.
    About a month or so later I was in the driveway with the back hatch of my Jeep open so I could unload groceries. I don’t know HOW I knew this, but all of a sudden he was there with me having jumped up and into the cargo area of the car. His presence was so powerful it was as if he was physically there. He stayed but a moment and then was gone. I believe he came to say good bye (I am crying for him now as I type
    Frodo will do the same for you… be looking for it.

  • colleen b says

    Oh my goodness – this is not what I thought this post was about…so much love and hugs to you – RIP King Frodo

  • Debra says

    Oh my Goodness, I can’t believe it. I loved Frodo. Ever since I first started visiting SAINTS, I looked forward to seeing him. Then as I started my volunteering, I always look forward to him in my vehicle and getting cuddles from him while I give him some treats.

    So sorry to hear about this Carol. I am going to miss him. RIP Frodo

  • laura says

    Dear Frodo, yours was the one Saints animal name that passed my lips the most…one being you were usually the first animal I talked about on all my tours, because as any good King you would greet all comers to your kingdom. Secondly would be all the times I called your name when searching for you as you were out gallavanting the land or car or school or Hatzic. For a slasher cat you were one sweet guy! Loved you and will miss you…..

  • Helga says

    Not, Frodo! Oh, Carol this is devastating. He would always appear at the end of the driveway when I got there in the morning and would purr like a motor when you petted him. And I’ll never forget the time he popped up in my backseat when I got to Liquidation World. Rest in peace, furface.

  • Cora says

    Aww Frodo! I’m so sorry Carol.

  • Brent says

    OMG – I don’t know what to say, I feel very sad for Frodo and everyone who knew him. I will miss Frodo.

  • Allison says

    Dear Carol– so sorry about Frodo’s sudden passing.

    Years ago, I adopted a neglected persian cat from a rescue organization. He was very handsome, with striking orange eyes and blue grey fur… so I named him Gandalf the Grey after the wizard in the Lord of the Rings. I loved this cat more than any other cat I have ever lived with. After about 8 years (he was probably 10 years old), I was sitting in my office doing some writing, and he was sitting on the desk next to me. All of a sudden he made a weird noise and collapsed. I grabbed him and tried to get him breathing again–I even did mouth-to-mouth resuscitation — but he would not wake up. I got him in the car and drove to the vet, but there was nothing to be done. The vet believed he died of congestive heart failure. Funny thing– he had no symptoms and if he had, I would have taken him to the vet right away.

    Maybe that’s what happened to Frodo and to Suzanne’s cat. Gandalf did not suffer, though, it was so quick. And as horrible as it was to be there, I was relieved in a way because that way I knew how he had died and I knew that he had not suffered.

    My thoughts and prayers go to you and everyone at Saints. You gave Frodo lots of love and a good life at Saints, and that’s what really matters.

  • Carol Ann says

    wow this is a shock. so sorry, he was always a sweet guy when he met me in the driveway on saturdays

  • Bunny Horne says

    My dear, Carol, I am so very sorry for your loss. There really aren’t enough words to express my sorrow. Everyone’s thoughts and wishes and stories have made me long for my two beloved cats that passed on. I still have their ashes and I will take the time tonight to visit my two tiny urns and pay respects and love to my beloved Mookie (19 yrs) and June Bug (20 yrs). Neither passed on suddenly, I had the privilege of being with each when it was time to help them to the rainbow bridge. I’m sorry you weren’t with Frodo to do the same. I will miss that crazy cat. He greeted us every time we visited and promptly would climb into the Mustang and rummage through our stuff. Rest in Peace dear Frodo – your presence will be greatly missed.

  • Diana says

    Oh, so sorry about Frodo. He reminded me of my old cat Blue who died on my bed at the age of 19 1/2.

    Hey Carol, how about I try brushing out the new guy? I have done a lot of northern dog brushing and I may be able to get it in shape without shaving.

  • lynne says

    oh crap i will miss him also coming to greet me in the driveway and sneaking into my car. i am so sorry carol he truly was a king and i am sure he knew it. it was his domain and he took good care of it. rip peace sweet frodo you will be missed.

  • Carol says

    thank you everyone for all the kind frodo thoughts…we all loved him, he was saints special welcoming king…i don’t like the suite anymore is so empty and barren without him in there with me.

    not to worry diana..we won’t be shaving odie..he doesn’t have much hair left to brush or to shave. we did the bloodwork today..probably thyroid…maybe cushings disease…we will see what the bloodwork says.

  • Brenda says

    What the ? is going on!! Frodo was a great cat. “His Magesty” was always the first SAINTS animal I saw on Sundays in the driveway, and I too have had him sleeping in my car in the sun on a few occasions. Wow, what a shock for you Carol. The picture of the 2 of you on the back cover of the SAINTS book you wrote (Unbreakable Souls) is still my favorite in the whole book. That picture says it all. I’m so sorry.

  • Carol says

    i think either there isn’t a god to give two such hard blows in a day..or i am a pretty horrible person that he whacked damn hard to smarten up.

    and i don’t like either of those possiblities….it is the yin and the yang of death landed here…dixie i saw coming and frodo hit me from left field….but in the same fucking 24 hours????

    i am hurt and i am pissed and i want them back.
    maybe i did wrong by dixie and frodo was the penalty?

  • Brenda says

    Well, there is a God, and you are definitely NOT a horrible person, so I think we can chalk it up to “shit happens”, and sometimes too much shit in one day! I know that doesn’t make you feel any better, but I think that about sums it up! Take care…… Hugs to you

  • Tammy says

    No, Carol, you are not a horrible person. You are pretty amazing with everything you do and sacrifice.
    You got it right the first time, there is no god.
    Sorry about Frodo, he was one of a kind. He knew what he wanted and didn’t take no for an answer.
    I’m going to miss our car cuddles.
    Take care.

  • Renee says

    Frodo you always have been and always will be the king of saints. I love you sweetie, so much. I’m so sorry carol, I know how hard this is for you, and in no way are you a horrible person.

  • Diana says

    Tammy is right Carol, what you do is amazing. The truth is with so many animals, and senior animals, the chance is that this will happen. I don’t know how you do it as it takes me a very long time to get over losing one of mine. I know distraction does help, but we all deal with it in our own way. Some never ever want to have a pet again and have to deal with another loss while others continue.

  • Mo says

    So very very sorry , today we truly lost a king.

  • colin says

    So sorry Carol, your heart must be so very heavy.

    You are still and always my hero.


  • pollyb says

    oh no ‘ I am soo very sorry ”its very sad ‘ and even sadder!! i don’t know what or how to say ‘ but I know i know it is so hard ‘ i mean i did not know him well but i loved that he jumped into my car” he was king ” oxxo Polly

    I am very sorry for all your losses at Saints ”

  • angekins says

    Oh Carol, I am so sorry for your loss, that is devastating – they had a wonderful and compassionate life with you – much love and hugs xx

  • Bridget says

    πŸ™ i’m so sorry, Carol… i knew Frodo could be a royal bugger, but i always liked him. i saw him when i was last there- he was directing me out of the driveway, so i didn’t run over any signs.

    he might have just gone out, found a corner to expire in. at least he was at home, near you, where he was comfortable?

    what can i say… royalty issues its own permissions?

  • K.O. says

    Carol, I am so sorry to hear of the passing of Frodo. He truly was a King at Saints.

  • Ann C says

    Oh Carol I am so sorry I just saw the post and cannot believe Frodo has gone. He was the twin of my long departed Smokey and the first animal I meet at SAINTS, while I waited outside the MP building for the tour to start I was cuddling him and when he had enough he bit my hand to let me know I should put him down, which I very promptly did!! Love you Frodo, sweet dreams……extra big hugs to you Carol.

  • Shelley says

    Frodo was a noble and beautiful creature… godspeed to your reward, Frodo…

  • Hillevi says

    So very sorry to read of Frodo’s passing. I wonder if that is why he wanted out at night. It is written that God does not give us more than we can handle. There is so much more that I want to write but I can’t say anything other than I am so very sorry!

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